Working together

“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”

Helen Keller

I gift playful and compassionate workshops, coaching and facilitation to help smart, sensitive individuals embrace themselves through self-kindness, mindfulness and knowing that they’re not alone.

Through my gentle, intuitive presence and perceptive questions, I can help you find relief and enjoy a deeper understanding of yourself and others.

My workshops involve guided meditations, practical information and hands-on creativity.

How To Say No

  • Learn the benefits of saying no
  • Explore why fear, ambivalence and confusion make it difficult
  • Receive practical tips and advice to take away
  • Embrace a process to help you RISE to the challenge

Hugging Your Demons

  • Gently encounter rejected parts of yourself
  • Learn how self-compassion gives us greater peace
  • Experience the relief self-kindness brings

Three Keys to Self-Kindness

  • Recognise the difference between needs and approval
  • Explore your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs
  • Give yourself permission for future self-kindness

Please contact me for more details.

The gentle power of self-care

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”

Jack Kornfield

Everything I do is built around these three words: nurture then manage.

We need to nurture ourselves in small, regular and often creative ways, before we can handle the stress in our lives.

Why? Because when we’re stressed we end up starving the part of the brain that takes more considered decisions.

Until our fight-or-flight response is soothed, trying to manage ourselves is like trying to turn down the oven in a kitchen that’s currently on fire; misguided, inefficient, and somebody’s gonna get burned. Luckily, self-compassion is our emotional fire-brigade;

Self-kindness is being friendly, generous and considerate towards ourselves. Unlike numbing, which often leaves us feeling guilty, self-kindness and comfort leaves us feeling restored, renewed and peaceful.

Mindfulness, which simply means paying attention. By noticing our thoughts and how we feel with a gentle curiosity, we can recognise that we’re something separate from our thoughts and emotions.

So meditation is simply giving ourselves the time and space to notice while our more usual distractions on hold.

Common humanity means accepting that we’re only human, and that we’re not alone in being human.

We all feel scared, a failure, too much or not enough in various areas of our lives. The shame of those feelings keeps us isolated and disconnected from ourselves and others.

Common humanity helps us to know that what we fear set us apart from others actually connects us to others, through shared feelings and experiences.

Life happens, and just keeps happening. May I offer a loving, intuitive presence so you can be kinder to yourself when it does.

Uncovering our stories

“If I could give men and women in relationship, and leaders and parents, one hack, I would give them; ‘The story I’m making up [is]…’ “

Brene Brown

We’re wired for stories; they’re how we make sense of the world and our place in it.

When we’re stuck it’s often because we’re called to take painful action but we keep resisting, trying to find an easier way out.

We resist because of the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, which can range from ‘I have to be strong’ to ‘I’m not enough’ and beyond.  Whether we’re conscious of them or not, these beliefs can colour how we feel about ourselves, the world, and others.

Unchecked, we’re left with our emotions and actions becoming reactions to “the story I’m making up”; the meaning we give to what’s happening or being said.

Let’s bring a new perspective to our stories, and discover that we have more in common than divides us through sharing them.

I love to create and deliver workshops and talks around self-compassion and happiness.

So far these include three different workshops for the London-based non-profit Museum of Happiness and a workshop on Stress Resilience for postgraduate students at The University of Liverpool’s Institute of Infection and Global Health.

I enjoy talking to both large and small groups, and have delivered pop-up Museum of Happiness’s at the St Albans Film Festival in Hertfordshire, and given talks including Happier in Five Minutes for Silicon Abbey.

Please contact me if you’d like to host or co-create a workshop or event, and let’s make the world a kinder and more self-compassionate place – together.