“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”
I’m an intuitive adviser and compassion-focused positive psychology educator, facilitator, and consultant.
Through my playful, intuitive presence and perceptive questions, I help smart and heart-centred individuals find relief and enjoy a deeper understanding of themselves and others through fun yet meaningful conversations about the nature of being human.
Previous workshops for The Museum of Happiness, Creator’s Club, and Barclays Digital have included:
How To Say No
- Learn the benefits of saying no
- Explore why fear, ambivalence and confusion make it difficult
- Receive practical tips and advice to take away
- Embrace a process to help you RISE to the challenge
Hugging Your Demons
- Gently encounter rejected parts of yourself
- Learn how self-compassion gives us greater peace
- Experience the relief self-kindness brings
The Self-Care Compass
- Recognise the difference between needs and approval
- Explore your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual needs
- Give yourself permission for future self-kindness
I’m currently exploring the idea of “Self as Instrument” – how our first intervention with everyone we meet is our own self and our quality of presence – and a psychoeducation model which brings together Polyvagal Theory with Compassion Focused Therapy in an easily accessible hybrid;
Everything I do is built around these three words: nurture then manage.
We need to nurture ourselves in small, regular and often creative ways, before we can handle the stress in our lives.
Why? Because when we’re stressed we end up starving the part of the brain that takes more considered decisions.
Until our fight-or-flight response is soothed, trying to manage ourselves is like trying to turn down the oven in a kitchen that’s currently on fire; misguided, inefficient, and somebody’s gonna get burned. Luckily, self-compassion is our emotional fire-brigade;
Self-kindness is being friendly, generous and considerate towards ourselves. Unlike numbing, which often leaves us feeling guilty, self-kindness and comfort leaves us feeling restored, renewed and peaceful.
Mindfulness, which simply means paying attention. By noticing our thoughts and how we feel with a gentle curiosity, we can recognise that we’re something separate from our thoughts and emotions.
So meditation is simply giving ourselves the time and space to notice while our more usual distractions on hold.
Common humanity means accepting that we’re only human, and that we’re not alone in being human.
We all feel scared, a failure, too much or not enough in various areas of our lives. The shame of those feelings keeps us isolated and disconnected from ourselves and others.
Common humanity helps us to know that what we fear set us apart from others actually connects us to others, through shared feelings and experiences.
Life happens, and just keeps happening. May I offer a loving, intuitive presence so you can be kinder to yourself when it does.
“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”